WHAT BLOCKED YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY TO FIND YOUR CHILD?

Assisted reproduction is a long treatment journey, consuming a lot of time, money and energy for infertile couples. On this journey, somewhere we often come across patients who become extremely stressed and tend to want to commit suicide after failure – especially women.

Because women carry the psychology of “responsibility”, “guilt”, “self-pity”,… because they are the ones who play the main role along the way, not men. If a woman has an unstable mentality, she accidentally lives in an environment full of “criticism”, “blame”, “scorn”, “lack of sharing”… from family and people around her. Then they become even more withdrawn, closing themselves in a lonely room and suffering alone. Facing family, public opinion, and the tiring treatment process every day, if they do not have a strong spirit, bravery, and perseverance, they can easily fall into a state of anxiety, tension, stress, and depression. rather than becoming depressed or suffering from psychological disorders.

Science proves one thing: STRESS is one of the causes of infertility, in addition STRESS is also one of the factors leading to failure during treatment. For that reason, today, clinicians not only focus on the couple’s current tests and determine appropriate treatment methods, but also care deeply about the couple’s psychology. husband before, during and after infertility treatment.

To get the best treatment results, what should you do? In addition to choosing a reputable IVF center, choosing the right method, preparing financially, and arranging time, the issue of PSYCHOLOGICAL preparation is an extremely important thing that most couples do. husband often ignores.

1. On the husband’s side:

– Be a strong spiritual support for your wife

– Women have a habit of not wanting to say what they think, but want others to understand them. In treatment, too, women certainly have many worries and stresses, so you should regularly ask and share your partner’s worries.

– Be very sympathetic and avoid saying unintentional words, disparaging, criticizing, especially when you fail or your wife’s test results have serious problems, work with her to find a solution, because right away Hey, she is the one who feels the most helpless and miserable.

– You should arrange a time to take her to the doctor. Even though the infertility treatment process mainly only requires the wife to go to the hospital, if you have a friend to go with her, she will gain more strength.

– Protect your woman from relatives: women are very pressured when asked the questions: “Are you pregnant yet?”, “Why has it been so long without a baby?”, or simply asking Visit: “How are the results?”, “Are there any symptoms?”,… During the treatment process, you should tell those around you to limit asking questions about her. Even though you are concerned, you will accidentally cause trouble. she became stressed and saw that she was carrying a heavy responsibility. That leads to worse treatment results. You should remember that only when a woman’s psychology is very good and comfortable will it be easy to succeed.

2. On the wife’s side:

– You are yourself, only you understand yourself, and only you love yourself the most. Therefore, sit still, listen to yourself, see what your body wants, what it is worried about, what support it needs from others, and whether it is at peace or not.

– Believe in yourself, believe that your child will come to you, take 15 minutes of your day to close your eyes, sit still, breathe deeply, don’t think about anything at that moment, being quiet will help you feel more peaceful and serene. .

– Tell your husband about your worries, so he can share and accompany you.

– Go to work – after embryo transfer you tend to quit work and stay at home alone, this unintentionally makes you stressed and feels like time passes more slowly, lying down too much causes poor blood circulation. , reduces blood flow to the uterus, making it more likely to fail after embryo transfer.

– Practice yoga: you should practice gentle yoga exercises (without many stretching movements), mainly to maintain health, help you feel comfortable, and reduce stress. This is one of the therapies being recommended during infertility treatment.

– Don’t pay attention to what people say around you. You are about to become a mother, being a mother is a very difficult job, you need to have a strong inner self, not be defeated by external factors, not emotionally dependent on others, only then will you be strong enough. taking care of children. Therefore, from now on, practice being a “COURAGED” woman.

3. Note for both husband and wife:

– You should remember, whether you succeed or fail, be happy with what you have. What you have is so much, you just don’t realize it. You have a love, a happiness, a husband and wife who agree to overcome difficulties together. Accept all truths that come to you in peace. Every day you are living, but living in happiness or suffering depends on your own thoughts.

– Don’t blame each other, no matter who the cause of infertility is, you still agree to treat it together. Blaming will only separate the relationship, and the stress will become more and more severe.

– Before and after treatment, you can travel together to relax your mood, which makes it easier for you to succeed.

This article focuses on psychological issues, because in fact, treatment regimens are available and medications are used as recommended. The remaining problem for each person depends on their constitution, response to medication, luck and especially whether their psychological preparation is good or not. We hope you have a love big enough, consensus, confidence, and steadfastness on your journey to find your child.